Why do the “n” habits of a successful person not work for me … This is something I hear when I work with my coaching clients, who have bought a book, that offers some magic cure to their woes. My view is that they don’t work because one size does not fit all, and not every approach works for everyone. Also, mostly these approaches tell you what to do, not how to do it, so people may try yet flounder quickly and then revert to previous behaviours.
The trick is to create new behaviours, habit and routines that feel comfortable, that fit you and support what you want to achieve. This can involve picking and choosing the elements from a process that works. In most cases the shared approaches offer wonderful wisdom, it is is just hard to chunk them down and not everyone appreciates that you don’t have to do everything right away. Sometimes though, the techniques are extreme you are either being encouraged to say No or if you do that too much to say Yes! As with everything moderation is key and it must seem authentic for you.
Think about which bits make sense and can work for you. Consider these approaches as a guides that are providing a shopping list of things to do and it will feel less daunting. Take it one step at a time and do things in the order that feel right for you. When you choose the new habit you are going to create, consider out of 10 how likely you are to do it and then if it’s not a 10 out of 10, reflect on what would make the new habit or routine more achievable.
Be kind to yourself and forgive yourself when old habits creep in… doing something new takes time and when you are feeling tired or stressed you are more likely to revert to the old well trodden path.